Beautiful Kim. |
This is the tale about a beautiful woman that I (Keira –from
Epic Enabled) have known for 10 years. I always knew her to be a vibrant, sparkly and adventurous woman. Today she is still that!
The beginning
So Kim, what happened in your accident?
I had gone to Mozambique on a
holiday with a friend, and one evening we went to visit a friend a short drive
away. We sat around having drinks (I had 2), dancing and chatting. Then around
midnight I decided to dive into the pool. Everyone was inside and I was alone.
The moment I dived in I remember hitting the top of my head and instantly was
paralyzed, but put it down to a concussion. My body turned to cement, dragging
me under, my hands were not working and my voice was a whisper.
Panic started to set it and I
tried to call for help but only a faint sound was coming out even though I was
screaming at the top of my lungs. I was still being dragged down until I felt a
hand reach out, and I was pulled out.
Kim in physio. |
After more than 48 excruciating
hours and flights I arrived at Groote Schuur Hospital in Cape Town. I was in
ICU for 7 days being stabilized then operated on and diagnosed as a C6/C7
complete injury which is commonly known as a quadriplegic.
I am essentially paralyzed till
under my armpits, this is my break line. Although I have limited grasp in my
hands and fingers they are becoming much stronger with time and exercise. Many
doctors will tell you there is only room for improvement up to 2 years after your
accident, then no more. But ask any quadriplegic and they will tell you this is
not true, it continues. Our bodies are always repairing, changing and getting
stronger.
I had not hit my head hard, it
was just a bump! Apparently the pressure travelled down my spine and ‘blew out’,my
C7 vertebrae. My doctor said to me that I
was very unlucky, most people would have walked away with a sore neck or a bad
headache. I was osteoporotic which literally meant I had soft bones.
I have full mobility of my arms
and shoulders and because of this I am classed as a tetraplegic. Most people
with my injury are paralyzed neck down and cannot use their arms. I guess I am
one of the lucky ones. You learn to count your blessings and be very grateful
for everything.
I spent 30 days on my back in
Groote Schuur SCI (Spinal Cord Injury) ward then 3 ½ months in a rehab at rehabilitation
centre in Mitchells Plain- they are brilliant.
I also had 3 more major
operations to try improve my mobility and general quality of life over the next
year. Hysterectomy, hand operation and tummy augmentation. That first year was
hell and I spent more than 8 months in hospital!
What were your greatest fears at first after you had been told your
diagnosis?
Every day was scary, each day had
something I realized I couldn’t do. Day 1 I couldn’t feed myself, couldn’t drink
water, couldn’t hold a glass. Day 2 couldn’t brush my teeth, couldn’t feel my
bladder, couldn’t go to the toilet, and couldn’t brush my hair. Day 3 I couldn’t
turn myself, couldn’t sneeze, couldn’t hold a pen, couldn’t write, couldn’t laugh,
couldn’t cough. You see every day was scary as hell and I was living in an
ongoing nightmare. Then I went to bed at night, woke up and realized it was
happening all over again!
There was a lot of fear about the
uncertainty of the future, where to from here?!
Independence was probably the
greatest fear as I was always very independent and always busy. How was I going
to look after my 4 children? My kids were always on my thoughts.
Another fear was being a burden
to others. I don’t believe a person realizes the magnitude of what’s going to
change or what has happened at first. Every day is a new challenge and one
slowly realizes life as you knew it has gone. It’s been almost 5 years and I
still find there are things I never realized I can’t do. But you always find a
way!
Kim and her daughter, Kaylin. |
Keep tuned for the next installment
of Kim’s ordeal that life has thrown at her. Next she will be telling us about
her challenges, what it was like going back home and how it has changed her relationships
with loved ones.
amazing women
ReplyDeleteso much respect for her!
ReplyDeleteRemarkable story. Thank you for sharing. It with us.
ReplyDeleteKim taught me what it is to 'feel' life and I'd always treasure that!!
ReplyDeleteKeep on dancing, beautiful, sunlit lady xxx